It was Memorial Day Weekend 2009. I stopped by my Mom’s with the kids to go swimming and have lunch. Once Jack and Ava were toweled off and happily eating their hotdogs and potato chips, I hopped on Mom’s computer to check my eHarmony inbox.
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A few weeks earlier I had very skeptically signed up. Online dating was still a new thing. It was awkward and weird and a little desperate, but hey, so was I- so what did I have to lose?

Looking back now, I had NO BUSINESS dating anyone – online or otherwise. My first marriage, a complete disaster, had ended only to be outdone by my next relationship which blew up even more spectacularly in my face.
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I can’t even count the nights I ended up on the kitchen floor, sobbing after tucking the kids into bed. Lost in my brokenness and grief, I didn’t realize God was at work.
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I clicked the mouse to open my account and inside was a notification that “Joe from Tampa” had “smiled” at me. This meant eHarmony’s mysterious and magical algorithm had determined we were “compatible” and that Joe liked my profile.
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Cautiously, I opened the email to find the picture of a tall, dark (yes-he still had hair back then!) and handsome man staring back at me from the computer screen. I felt a stirring within my still broken heart, so small I almost missed it. There was just something genuinely kind in his eyes.
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As I read through his profile, I found myself laughing out loud at his obvious, fantastic sense of humor. I liked this guy. I “smiled” back at him and the rest as they say….
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10 years later our life together is more beautiful than I ever could have imagined. That hard season of loss is what opened me up to gain so much more. Married with 3 kids, Joe still makes me laugh every single day. He is all the evidence I’ll ever need of God’s grace at work in my life, even when I can’t see it.
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“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11